At what point you know its time to move on from your partner?
We owned a house together (mostly his money), and have a 13 month old. I just recently got a permanent part time job that there is possiblity to become full time in the future. I really want to move out.
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I find its sooo hard to communicate with him for the last couple of months. I always feel sad and depressed because I feel there is no relationship between me and him anymore. If I bring it up and say I wanna spend time with him, he'd say he stressed from work and just wanna playing games(every single night). If I asked for him to spend time more time with baby, he told me not to tell him how to father'. If I raised my voice a bit because I barely get any respones, he would say I am selfish and bullying him. I still love him and we supposed to get married in the next 7 months but I dont even wanna be married with someone who thinks I am being a selfish for wanting to spend time with him. He also see's his friends a lot and if I bring it up he would defend them saying they are struggling at the moment and always have lots of excuses. He thought that he's done his part as father after working full time.
Financial issue, my previous work was very unstable, we rely on him all the time and he is complaining he doesnt have money and we used most of our savings, when I get paid which is not much probably ($150-200 a week), I used it all to pay my petrol and buying groceries. Yet, he still managed to buy his cans every single day and if I bring it up, told him that if he still can buy his drink, dont complain we dont have money and he said I dont have right to say coz he's the one who works full time and pay for everything.
I want to move out and move on and start over. But I am so scared and don't have any savings, I dont know who to ask for help as I am alone in Perth. I do have permanent work so hoping can get my own place.
Some part of me hopes he would change but he doesn't seem he care. He ignores me most of the time when I struggle with baby or when I cry myself to sleep. Sometimes I can't hold it any longer and cry while feeding my baby and feel so guilty baby sees me like this. I thought I have to be a strong mum and role model.