Has anyone been in this situation before where it's too good to leave but too bad to stay?
I have three kids with my husband, the youngest is 11 months. We have been married 13 years, and honestly, I am getting tired of his general attitude towards life. He has been depressed for a while, gets moody and snappy at me and the kids. I have given him endless hours of empathy and support - urged him to see a counsellor, play golf, see friends, etc. etc. anything that will help him to feel better. It just doesn't seem to work as he is still the same.
We don't go out anymore because nothing is ever right when we go somewhere- the food, the traffic, the people and we end up miserable. He is very critical of everything.
He does love our children to pieces, though. And I know he loves me. He helps me so much with looking after the kids.
I just feel like I need more from this relationship- affection, love, attention. I have tried to talk to him about it but he doesn't want to really listen to me. It's like he's on autopilot and everyday is a series of monotonous domestic tasks and child care taking. The joy, fun and spontaneity has been sucked out of our life.
Tonight he flipped it and went to his room (we sleep separately) because our daughter cut a 1cm hole in an old chair. These types of things send him over the edge while I'm trying to figure out when do you draw the line, should I finally leave him? What should I do?