It's been 3 years since I had my kid and 8 years married in total.
I find I have lost my love for my husband as he is not someone who knows how to create fun and keep it exciting. I am done trying to make it work so now everything is repetitive and mundane just to make sure my kid has a family unit together.
I strongly believe he is burnt out at work, come home just doesn't talk to anyone and always on his phone or games. I can't believe I always have to remind him to engage my daughter verbally and play with her every night.
I believe my kid doesn't like the father as much as I do and she is unaffectionate (doesn't like to be cuddled or kissed) because she doesn't see the parents doing so. I feel very sad if she grows up thinking this is normal.
To be honest I'm staying because of money and I have no family around except for his.
To me he is just a lazy partner who doesn't know how to pamper the wife and he always shun from sex in the early days. He doesn't engage me in planning for our future and just stay at the back of the marriage like a lame lazy person.i can't believe I am having his kid and now I feel I can't leave.
When I was pregnant I fell in love with someone at work but he has since left the company and divorced from his wife and have kids. Couple of times I met him and my kid adores him.
She is like this other person around him- so much laughter and smile and engagement.
I need a change, I feel like I don't dare to move out and move on - my daughter will never forgive me when she is older. My strict family is going to kill me if they know this. I'm close to 40 this year and I don't have many more years ahead to enjoy life and a good companion - the person I love is out there waiting for me. I know it's going to be very hard with no money, no family, and all the battle to start separation seems so hard. My partner says I'm delusional when I say I don't love him anymore and want out because I fell in love with someone else. He says I'm going to have no money and stability and all this feeling of love and crush is bullshit if I'm busy looking for money when I leave him.