I'm wanting to separate from my partner. A few people have said to me get all your ducks lined up first, but where do you start?
My story: we have been together for 3 years but not married and have a young child. We are living in my house. While I was pregnant he gave me a cold and I got a complication from that which is still present today and has impacted my life a lot. (I hadn't seen him for a few months due to work and he lied and said he was better even after I told him to stay away if he was still ill). He shows no remorse for getting me sick and has never said sorry or tried to help me get better. Yes he is a selfish person who puts his needs first. We fight a lot. I've tried many times to forgive and move on but I can't. I just can't do it. He likes to criticize how I look after the baby, but he can't even look after him for 5 minutes without getting the shits. I don't want him to share custody as I worry about the babies safety with him. There's more issues but these are the main ones.