I am quite broken and confused. My husband of 9 years is caring responsible person and does his share to help with house work and hands on with our 2 year old daughter. However from the very beginning he was not very affectionate, romantic or loving. He doesn't do much cuddling and it's been over 3 years since we had sex. He did show some effort with cuddles and make out in the beginning but things just got worst with time. I have had countless arguments with him over his lack of intimacy especially since I am a very affectionate and loving with so much love to give and love a bit of romance now and then. The frustration took a toll this year and I gave an ultimatum. After a lot of procrastination he finally saw a therapist who diagnosed him as asexual and that he can't change. I am so broken and somehow feel used a little as I thought the times that we were intimate he genuinely felt it especially when we tried for a baby. He made every effort and time for this. I do love him however I can't help feeling bitter and frustrated. He is also not taking this very well and is depressed because of the way he is. All this emotions is making our home a depressing place. so unhealthy for us and our lil girl. He keeps avoiding talking about it but I wanted to deal with it. He gets excited spending time with friends, planning outings and be on the phone than time with me. It's so upsetting. Although we are both heartbroken we think the best thing is to separate as we are so different. I am so confused and scared at the same time as I don't have family here and will be with a 2 year old myself. How do I afford anything for myself and daughter? he said he will support me if this is what I want but still it isn't less scary. I am 35 will I be able to find someone who can make me happy? I have heard of weirdos and psychos and this scares the shit out of me? Do I suck it up and stay? How do I manage my emotions and frustration if I do stay? Anyone in a relationship with some who doesn't like intimacy sex or romance and how do you manage? Please help!!!