Sorry ahead for the long post and thank you in advance for advice.
I've had 3 kids but my eldest passed away last year from cancer. My 5 years old daughter constantly missing her older sister very much, sometimes she'd cries out loud or simply sad and told me that she misses her sister and that her sister is in the sky now.
Just abit of the history before I get into the concern. So, my eldest diagnosis with cancer when my second daughter was only 1, lots of time we just focused on her sister with treatments...etc and somehow favoured her sister more at the time due to the incureable' reason.
After her sister passed away, not long later I felt pregnant and now have a new born...again, I'm too busy with Bub and don't have lots of time to play with her. Baby is only 3 months old and so clingy.
She is generally good manner but I find that lately she talks back to us, gets angry easier. Sometimes picking her up from school, I'd ask how hows School' and she told me she doesn't want to tell me. Both my husband and I tried to make up for her and tells her what's right or wrong to do...she listens and be good but just sometimes she has to be so stubborn and rude.
I don't know if it is the age thing or if we've hurt her? What should I do? Someone recommended us to take her to see specialist for grieving her sister but I'm not sure, is it too early for her? I mean she is 5, what would she think when she is older and rmb to go to specialist at age of 5?