I have intimacy issues and need some advice.
My husband and I have been married 3 years and been together nearly 10yrs. Intimacy has never been a problem. When i was pregnant with my first, the sex was great during, it was after that it slowed down heaps. Only about 3 months later we could be intimate again. So our intimacy grew stronger, then I became pregnant with my second and I had no sex drive for most of the pregnancy and now 5wks after the birth I have no sex drive at all.
My husband keeps (everyday) asking me if we are gonna do it and I keep having to disappointment him by saying no because I have pain after the csection which is the excuse I use (embarrassingly) because I feel too embarrassed I don't have a sex drive.
He also keeps making jokes that he doesn't get any, which makes me feel even worse.
I am deeply saddened by this whole thing as I am very very much still attracted, physically and sexually, to my husband and I feel like total failure as a wife, a mom and a Woman.
Not making excuses here, but I am very busy during the day keeping house, looking after our newborn and I am so super tired by the time hubby and firstborn gets home - Hubby helps out so much at home he does most of the things which also makes me feel horrible that I can't even show him my gratitude sexually