Need an opinion: either to suck it up or find a find a way to nip it in the bud now...
Im a Kiwi and Bubs Dad is Aussie.. Now we aint together but still mates, when we found out we were having a baby we had an agreement that if it were a boy he gets the first name and me the 2nd and vice versa for a girl.
Bubs is a Boy and Dad picked a English name I wouldn't particularly have picked but Bubs Dad was passionate about it and in turn myself and now totally love it. I picked a Maori name significant to us.
Ok all that out of the way down to the Problem.
My Parents/my side of the family are not particularly fond of the name Bubs Dad picked and call bubs by his middle name. Which is all good it's beautiful and means alot to us. But when other people ask his name and I say his first name you feel the negative vibe and roll of the eyes and sometimes they say his Maori name straight after as some kind of correction.
I've asked them to respect his first name and to use it from time to time. Also mentioned to them Bubs Dad kinda feels like its a kick in the guts to himself ignoring Bubs first name. One of their arguments is that why name him his middle name if they can't use it... (but they don't use the same passion for others peoples or their own middle names.)
I feel like i'mhitting my head against a brick wall. And don't wan't to push it too much as I love both names. Bubs is still new born atm and won't pick up on the eye rolls, passive correction on his name and so on but want to stop this before he does. Another concern is they will stop this when i'm around but what about when i'm not and bubs is..?